Safe Dating Guidelines

Get to know someone through messages before sharing personal details like your home address, workplace, or financial information. There's no rush — a genuine connection will respect your pace.

Never send money, gift cards, or financial help to someone you've met online — no matter how convincing the story. Requests for money are the most common sign of a scam. Report them to us right away.

For first meetings, choose a busy public place like a café or restaurant. Arrange your own transportation so you can leave whenever you want, and tell a friend or family member where you're going and who you're meeting.

Chatting inside Linking Lesbians 40+ keeps a record and lets us act on reports. Be cautious if someone pushes hard to move to text, email, or another app immediately.

If something feels off, it probably is. You never owe anyone a reply, a meeting, or an explanation. You can unmatch, block, or report any member at any time — blocking removes you from each other's view completely.

Be wary of anyone who: declares strong feelings unusually fast, avoids meeting or video chatting, has a story full of emergencies, asks for money or gifts, or pressures you for personal information or photos.

If you feel threatened or are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services first. Then report the member to us so we can protect others in the community.